I have to share the most amazing moment I've had in years (even if it is at my sons expense...again!).
I went into Wendy's last week to drop off my son his phone. He was working at the back window so one of his co-workers walked back and said "Hey Taylor, your girls here".
Confused, Taylor responds, "What?"
Co-worker again says "Your girls here, she's got something for you".
Thinking that his friend obviously had the wrong person Taylor says, "I don't have a GIRL".
So they both walk up to the front of the store slightly perplexed and as they round the corner Taylor says, "DUDE, that's my MOM!". To which the co-worker replies "No way, she's gotta only be in her twenties!"
Taylor said that he did eventually believed him with some coaxing, he thinks...
Can't beat that kind of compliment with a stick!
The Fam
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
The Heart of a Boy
Doesn't it always happen that just when you think a child cares nothing about you or your feelings they end up shocking you?!
This was my experience today with Taylor. Lately I've been feeling somewhat taken advantage of, especially by my 18 year old free-loading son! But then would it be normal to feel any other way?
But today he came home from school and told me that they had been discussing the 2nd coming of Christ in Seminary and were asked what they would say to him if hey were there and had the opportunity to speak to him. What he said left me gawbsmacked.
He said, "I asked two things Mom." "To know my Mother's sacrifice and to help my Dad".
I couldn't do anything but give him a hug. Behind that slacker-video-game-obsessed-teenageer is an extremely tender hearted boy.
Some days I feel so extremely blessed for the opportunity to raise such outstanding individuals...and today is one of those days!
This was my experience today with Taylor. Lately I've been feeling somewhat taken advantage of, especially by my 18 year old free-loading son! But then would it be normal to feel any other way?
But today he came home from school and told me that they had been discussing the 2nd coming of Christ in Seminary and were asked what they would say to him if hey were there and had the opportunity to speak to him. What he said left me gawbsmacked.
He said, "I asked two things Mom." "To know my Mother's sacrifice and to help my Dad".
I couldn't do anything but give him a hug. Behind that slacker-video-game-obsessed-teenageer is an extremely tender hearted boy.
Some days I feel so extremely blessed for the opportunity to raise such outstanding individuals...and today is one of those days!
Monday, March 29, 2010
Dating 101
For some reason I had this crazy notion that dating as an adult would be so much different, even easier than it was as a teenager. I had these euphoric ideas that I would be so mature and able to express myself. Boy was I wrong. I feel like a total idiot.
Not only do I feel like a 16 year old again but I am acting like one as well. At night I sit on the couch with my 15 year old daughter and we text our "boyfriends". Its kind of surreal. Makes it really hard to figure out who's the adult sometimes. Especially when I get a text (from my children) while I'm out on a date saying "The Holy Ghost goes to bed at midnight Mom!" Never thought that one would be used on me at 38!
All in all its been a good experience (so far) and I am enjoying the possibilities of my new found singleness. Everything is exciting and new, the potential endless and overwhelming. Waiting for that phone call, holding hands or kissing for the first time, it all makes my stomach do somersaults which in turn has awoken the butterflies from their decades long hibernation. The feelings are both magical and awful at the same time.
Unfortunately, I am also starting to experience the weight and gut-wrenching stress of the baggage I now carry. It is sad that "John Doe" has to deal with said "baggage" but, what do you do? I'm not sure how to get around that. My experiences in life, both good and bad, make me the person that I am and hopefully those experiences will benefit us both. In the end, I guess that I will have to trust the fact that if/when I meet "Mr. Right" he will love me in spite of my neurosis, and over time, my fears will subside, my insecurities will calm, my neediness fade and the pain and swelling of betrayal and mistrust will heal.
I'm afraid that my "Mr. Right" has a big job on his hands. Not to mention the fact that I am a package deal...buy one, get 4 more absolutely FREE! Not only does he have to love me but my four perfect (in some world) kids. I'm beginning to wonder if it is even a possibility, I mean the odds are not in my favor. Part of me completely buys into the whole Brady Bunch-Disney Channel fairy tale, that my Mr. Right will fall madly in love with me AND my 4 kids, we become a big happy family, live happily ever after, blah blah blah. But then, the one sane and realistic bone I have in my body says "Wake up sister, haven't you already experienced enough failure to know life is not a fairy tale!"
So, now I find myself caught between parallel worlds. The one where there is love at first site, soul mates, happily ever after, and the one where there is real people, with real issues, bad dates, unrealistic expectations. Being let down, turned down or simply put down. Its a jungle out there, as they say. How about I simply close my eyes and someone wake me up when its all done and I am once again a happily married woman!
I think the answer lies in one very famous quote by one amazing woman "It is better that we pass through the sorrow that we may know the good..."
Never in my life have I understood or appreciated that quote more than I do now. There is nothing in life than can bring you closer to God or the ability to appreciate the "good" in life more than crisis and tragedy. It is both a blessing and a curse. So for now I simply press on. Life goes on with or without me and so most days I try to hop on board. Each day is a new stop with new challenges and opportunities, sadness and joy. The idea of this new life is both exciting and daunting. I look forward to becoming a new and better person but I am also terrified of the failures that will inevitably come.
Wish me luck!
Not only do I feel like a 16 year old again but I am acting like one as well. At night I sit on the couch with my 15 year old daughter and we text our "boyfriends". Its kind of surreal. Makes it really hard to figure out who's the adult sometimes. Especially when I get a text (from my children) while I'm out on a date saying "The Holy Ghost goes to bed at midnight Mom!" Never thought that one would be used on me at 38!
All in all its been a good experience (so far) and I am enjoying the possibilities of my new found singleness. Everything is exciting and new, the potential endless and overwhelming. Waiting for that phone call, holding hands or kissing for the first time, it all makes my stomach do somersaults which in turn has awoken the butterflies from their decades long hibernation. The feelings are both magical and awful at the same time.
Unfortunately, I am also starting to experience the weight and gut-wrenching stress of the baggage I now carry. It is sad that "John Doe" has to deal with said "baggage" but, what do you do? I'm not sure how to get around that. My experiences in life, both good and bad, make me the person that I am and hopefully those experiences will benefit us both. In the end, I guess that I will have to trust the fact that if/when I meet "Mr. Right" he will love me in spite of my neurosis, and over time, my fears will subside, my insecurities will calm, my neediness fade and the pain and swelling of betrayal and mistrust will heal.
I'm afraid that my "Mr. Right" has a big job on his hands. Not to mention the fact that I am a package deal...buy one, get 4 more absolutely FREE! Not only does he have to love me but my four perfect (in some world) kids. I'm beginning to wonder if it is even a possibility, I mean the odds are not in my favor. Part of me completely buys into the whole Brady Bunch-Disney Channel fairy tale, that my Mr. Right will fall madly in love with me AND my 4 kids, we become a big happy family, live happily ever after, blah blah blah. But then, the one sane and realistic bone I have in my body says "Wake up sister, haven't you already experienced enough failure to know life is not a fairy tale!"
So, now I find myself caught between parallel worlds. The one where there is love at first site, soul mates, happily ever after, and the one where there is real people, with real issues, bad dates, unrealistic expectations. Being let down, turned down or simply put down. Its a jungle out there, as they say. How about I simply close my eyes and someone wake me up when its all done and I am once again a happily married woman!
I think the answer lies in one very famous quote by one amazing woman "It is better that we pass through the sorrow that we may know the good..."
Never in my life have I understood or appreciated that quote more than I do now. There is nothing in life than can bring you closer to God or the ability to appreciate the "good" in life more than crisis and tragedy. It is both a blessing and a curse. So for now I simply press on. Life goes on with or without me and so most days I try to hop on board. Each day is a new stop with new challenges and opportunities, sadness and joy. The idea of this new life is both exciting and daunting. I look forward to becoming a new and better person but I am also terrified of the failures that will inevitably come.
Wish me luck!
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Introduction
This is my first post on my new blog! For the past 2 years I have been blogging on seipertfamilyadventures.blogspot.com
But life has thrown a curve ball my way and even though we are still the seipert family, our adventures have changed and so I felt our blog site should as well.
The kids and I have recently moved from India to my home state of Utah. We have a house right around the corner from 2 of my brothers and live just 10 minutes from my Mom and Dad.
After 20 years of living far from home it is hard to express the feelings I have about being close to family for the first time in my adult life.
Thanks to them and some wonderful friends our transition to Utah and my transition to single motherhood has been much less stressful than it could have been.
The four beautiful children you see in the picture above are mine...and trust me, they are not just ANY children, they are amazing, gifted, talented and creative people who make my life a joy to live. Not that they don't drive me to want to drink on occasion (what kid doesn't) but they have been a light in the darkness for me and I love them more than life itself!
So stay tuned for more of Me and My 4 kids!
But life has thrown a curve ball my way and even though we are still the seipert family, our adventures have changed and so I felt our blog site should as well.
The kids and I have recently moved from India to my home state of Utah. We have a house right around the corner from 2 of my brothers and live just 10 minutes from my Mom and Dad.
After 20 years of living far from home it is hard to express the feelings I have about being close to family for the first time in my adult life.
Thanks to them and some wonderful friends our transition to Utah and my transition to single motherhood has been much less stressful than it could have been.
The four beautiful children you see in the picture above are mine...and trust me, they are not just ANY children, they are amazing, gifted, talented and creative people who make my life a joy to live. Not that they don't drive me to want to drink on occasion (what kid doesn't) but they have been a light in the darkness for me and I love them more than life itself!
So stay tuned for more of Me and My 4 kids!
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